Libertinage in Couples: Guide and Practices
Libertinage fascinates and intrigues many couples. Today we explore this captivating world where pleasure and sexual freedom meet. Consent and communication are at the heart of this practice that redefines the traditional limits of fidelity. Libertinage has a considerable influence on the dynamics of the couple, offering new perspectives on intimacy and sexuality.
In this article, we will take an in-depth look at what libertinage really is and how to approach it as a couple. We will also explore common practices such as voyeurism and libertine encounters. Our goal is to give you the keys to understanding and perhaps experiencing libertinage in an informed and fulfilling way. Whether you are curious or already initiated, this guide will help you navigate this fascinating world of free sexual relationships.
What is libertinism?
Definition and origins
Libertinism is a subject that has fascinated and intrigued us for centuries. We can define it as an approach to life that deviates from the cultural, intellectual, moral or sexual norms of its time. The term "libertine" finds its roots in the Latin word "libertus", meaning "freed". In the 17th century , it mainly referred to those who freed themselves from religious doctrines, claiming freedom of thought.
It was in the 18th century that libertinism took on a more transgressive dimension on the moral level. At that time, we began to dare to speak openly about desire and passion. The libertine movement, originally aristocratic, was born at the court of the king, questioning social norms and relations between the sexes.
The different forms of libertinism
Libertinism encompasses a variety of sexual practices. We can cite mixing , where two couples have sex without penetration with someone other than their usual partner. There is also exhibitionism, which consists of making love while being observed by at least one other person.
Voyeurism, which involves watching other people have sex, is another common practice. We also have "soft swap," which includes caresses and kisses with multiple partners, and "full swap," which involves full sex with people other than one's partner.
Myths and Realities
It is important for us to dispel some myths about libertinism. Contrary to what many think, libertines are not devoid of feelings. Many libertine couples experience solid and lasting romantic relationships. Libertinism can even strengthen the bond between partners by allowing them to live intense experiences together.
Another myth to deconstruct is the idea that libertinism is reserved for an elite. In reality, it is a practice open to all, regardless of social level, age or physical appearance. It is crucial to emphasize that consent is a fundamental element in libertinism. We consider that any sexual activity must be based on a voluntary and informed agreement between adults.
How to approach libertinism as a couple
Communication and consent
We cannot stress enough the importance of communication in libertinage. It is the key to approaching this practice in a healthy and fulfilling way. It is crucial for us to speak openly about our desires, our limits and our fears with our partner. This transparency creates a climate of trust and mutual respect, essential to a successful libertine experience.
Consent is at the heart of this process. We need to make sure that everyone involved is okay with what is happening. Everyone has the right to say “no” at any time, and that right must be respected without judgment. Consent is not set in stone; it must be reaffirmed regularly and can be withdrawn at any time.
Establish rules and boundaries
To get started in libertinism, it is essential to establish clear rules with our partner . These rules serve as a framework to ensure respect for each other's desires and limits. They may concern authorized practices, types of partners, or even the frequency of libertine experiences.
It is essential not to accept a libertine relationship just to please the other or for fear of losing him. Such a decision would reveal flaws in our relationship and could have harmful consequences. We must be honest with ourselves and our partner about our motivations and expectations.
Managing Emotions and Jealousy
Jealousy is a natural feeling that can arise in a swinger relationship. We need to accept and understand it rather than trying to suppress it. It is important to communicate openly about these emotions with our partner. Together, we can find solutions to manage jealousy, such as readjusting our rules or establishing new moments of sharing together.
To overcome jealousy, we can follow these steps:
- Becoming aware of emotion
- Accept it and understand its origin
- Expressing our fears and our love
- Developing our emotional autonomy
- Cultivate “compersion”, that is to say the joy felt when faced with the happiness of others
By approaching libertinism with open communication, clear rules and healthy management of emotions, we can live this experience in a fulfilling and enriching way for our couple.
Common practices of libertinism
Swinging
Swinging is a fascinating practice of libertinage that allows us to explore new dimensions of our sexuality. It involves two or more couples temporarily exchanging their partners. We find it a way to break the routine and enhance our sexual ego. This practice generally takes place in swingers clubs, of which there are now more than 400 in France . The atmosphere is pleasant and chic, with particular attention paid to hygiene and protection.
Mixing
Swinging, on the other hand, is a gentler practice that can serve as a springboard to swinging. It allows kissing, mutual caresses and oro-genital relations, but excludes vaginal and anal penetration. This approach offers us the opportunity to escape the phallocentric vision of sex and focus on other forms of pleasure. Swinging is popular with 72% of swingers.
Candaulism
Cuckolding is the practice of watching your partner have sex with someone else. This practice can take many forms, from watching a simple kiss to more advanced sexual acts. In the digital age, cuckolding has even extended to the virtual world, with couples sharing photos or videos of their partner on webcams.
Threesome
Finally, threesomes, or threesomes, involve an intimate relationship between three consenting people. This practice offers multiple possibilities and combinations, whether between two men and a woman, two women and a man, or three people of the same sex. Threesomes allow us to explore new sensations and get to know each other better. It is crucial to communicate clearly and establish rules before embarking on this experience.
Conclusion: Libertinism, an enlightened choice for couples
Swinging offers a new perspective on intimacy and sexuality for couples who choose to explore it. This practice has a significant influence on the dynamics of the couple, allowing them to redefine the traditional boundaries of fidelity. Open communication, mutual consent and establishing clear rules are essential to having a fulfilling experience.
Ultimately, libertinage is not for everyone, but it can be a source of enrichment for those who decide to engage in it. Whether through swinging, mixing or other practices, it offers the possibility of exploring new dimensions of sexuality. The important thing is to remain faithful to your values and desires while respecting those of your partner and the other participants.
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